Recently we did a survey among our readers about their experiences teaching about sex at home. The results were eye-opening.
The #1 fear or anxiety our readers have about talking to kids about sex is saying “too much too soon.”
I sympathize with this fear. In our modern age, we’ve become hyper-aware of sexual dysfunction in our society. Many of us come from sexually broken pasts ourselves. Moreover, we live in an age where parenting is always in the spotlight. Never before have there been so many widely published and conflicting opinions about how best to raise our kids.
For a lot of parents, in the face of overwhelming amounts of information, it is easy to feel like everything we do or don’t do will screw up our kids for life—especially when it comes to sexuality.
Sexual Clarity Amidst the Confusion
Recently, I wrote an article for the M.O.B. Society (Mothers of Boys) called “3 Strategies for Biblical Sex Education at Home.” In the article I argue there are several very compelling reasons why parents should not put off talking to kids about sex.
First, kids are sexual beings, meaning they are born as gendered beings, and need to learn what it means to be a man or woman created in the image of God.
Second, kids are learning abusive information about sex earlier and earlier. False message about sex are nearly impossible to avoid, even in the most protected environments. As wise parents, we should strive to be our children’s first and primary source of information about sex and not wait for the world to fill in the blanks.
Last, godly sexuality is a window to see the goodness of God. A biblical understanding of sex is not scandalous. Of course, it is a mature subject that should be handled in a mature way, but it is something God calls good.
3 Strategies for Sex Ed at Home
In a world full of sexual sin, one of our most important callings as parents is to raise our kids to avoid sexual temptations and also embrace a joyful picture of why God calls sex good.
I encourage you to visit the M.O.B. Society and read our article for 3 strategies that we and countless other Christian parents have used to have natural conversations in the home about sex.
Great post. We can’t ignore sex education in Christian homes. It’s more important than ever I think. Thanks, neighbor. Blessings to you and yours!
I really love that you took on this topic. While it is a hard one. I personally do not plan to homeschool but I do want to educate my children before school does so that I know they are getting God’s perspective on things. Thanks so much for sharing, it was a joy to read.
You’re welcome, Kelsey. I know if my kids went to our local schools, I would be talking to them even earlier than I typically do.
This is excellent and timely for me. I too Dee the importance of dealing with this topic with our children from a Godly perspective. My daughter is eleven and I think it’s about time to explain more and ask her does she have any questions. I home school my children so I was able to delay this talk until now. Pray my success on this topic. Sooo nervous lol. Thanks again!
Nervousness is normal. Just don’t let it freak you out into inaction. We have some resources here to help if you need anything!